I bet you read the title of this post, looked at the photo and thought something along the lines of, “Is this chic seriously trying to tell me a beach ball is all I need to stay calm when my child is having a level 10 melt down?… Go sell crazy somewhere else sister. I ain’t buying it”.
In doing so I’m noticing that regardless of the topic (building self-esteem, fostering positive sibling relationships, promoting good behavior, etc.), the same advice keeps resurfacing: remain calm, implement positive discipline vs. punishment, place value on effort and intrinsic rewards, and teach emotional intelligence.
- Seeing Tantrums as Distress, Not Defiance – For a healthy dose of perspective.
- Thought Replacement Therapy – While not actually a post on dealing with tantrums, I’ve still found it to be extremely useful. When I find myself thinking, “C is acting like a maniac”, I try to replace it with something like, “A year ago I was worried C would have trouble coming out of his shell – he’s really becoming a confident and expressive kid”. Obviously this doesn’t always work but it’s another nice way to try to put things in perspective.
- Keeping Calm When You Want to Explode (via Not Just Cute) – This post is a huge lesson on self-examination. It goes into great detail on how to really figure out your own melt down triggers as well as techniques to diffuse them.
- How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids… Or at Least Try to – This post, as well as it’s follow-up, is one mom’s very truthful (and helpful) account of the yelling that goes on at her house and what she did to stop it.
That’s what I’ve got for you, now what do you have for me? I’d really love your feedback. Do you struggle with this? What have you found that works? Please share in the comments below.